 | The Real Housewives of Orange County:Tamra Barney True Trashposted by RF Club, Group AdministratorWednesday, June 15th 2011 @ 9:52 AM (not yet rated) |
The Real Housewives of Orange County: Tamra Barney!
Typically, I would be writing a blogpost about the Reunion and I suppose I will but I have decided to write a solo post about Tamra Barney.
If you ever happen to 'pop' on the Home page of Real Fans Club you will notice I stress that this site is all about FUN! In many of my blogposts I mention that I don't take any of the Housewives to seriously and my style of writing is 'Tongue and Cheek attitude'. In addition, I even mention that from season to season, heck, even week to week I change my mind on how I feel about a Housewife. I make it clear that all fans are welcome and I have no problem with different viewpoints! I stand by that Home Page!!!
But!
Unfortunately, I must admit for the first time I find myself feeling a bit more disgusted by a Housewife than usual. Therefore, this post will not be written in my 'Tongue and Cheek' style. I suggest DIE HARD FANS of TAMRA BARNEY Might want to CLICK off the blog post! BUT, PLEASE NOTE, I don't believe you have to, I am a person that feels ALL people are entitled to an opinion and as long as a person politely refutes my perspective I am open to the debate. I am just warning fans of Tamra Barney's that this is not a favorable post about her!
Where to begin? Maybe a little background about me or my belief/ value system. I am 45 years old, not that much older than Tamra Barney. I am a mother of two grown children. A 22 year old son and a 19 year old daughter. My children are my life and I take parenting seriously. I am the first to admit it is hard job and there is NO SUCH THING as the PERFECT PARENT. Human beings make mistakes and even the most loving of parents make mistakes along their parenting path. But, that being said I do believe there is a basic parenting guide that should always be followed in a parent's decision making. A parent's decision should be based on "what is BEST for my child/children?"
Now, you know a little bit about me! Onto Tamra Barney!
Overall, I think Tamra Barney is the classic Trashy girl. This has nothing to do with money. I think Paris Hilton is Trashy. It is all about Class. My definition of Class is not MONEY. Class is how a person carries themselves. I have hung out with poor, middle class and wealthy women. At every status level I have come across TRASH and CLASS!
Tamra Barney is one of those Trashy girls that believes money and fame GIVES her class and STATUS. If she read this blogpost ( which she wouldn't) her claim would be that I am jealous of her and I am a hater. Oh, Tamra, how wrong you are. I do enjoy the Real Housewives series and you have become 'the character' that has crossed the line to Trashy VILLAIN. I know the Housewives believe that all of us viewing would DIE to be a housewife. No, I would SHIT my pants if I was on the show because I am shy. I could never handle all the fighting on camera. I have no interest in EVER being on a television show. I love watching the shows! I enjoy being a spectator! Therefore, I am not jealous of Tamra Barney's new found fame from the show.
I guess, Tamra would say I was jealous of her LIFE!! Which is funny. Let us take a look at her life! Tamra has FOUR children with two different men and TWO FAILED MARRIAGES and she is in her forties. Yeah, not jealous! Tamra had to short sell her home which clearly means she has financial troubles. Once again, not jealous of that situation!
I will not divulge all my personal business because I am not on a reality show! I will assure you I am not jealous of Tamra Barney! I have two children with ONE man, the SAME man I married to NOW and he is the only man I have ever married. ONE MARRIAGE FOR 23 years!! Please note , I understand people divorce and SHIT happens. I am just saying, NO, I am not jealous of TAMRA BARNEY'S life. In addition, We have been blessed not have any serious financial issues. We, of course, are normal and have ups and downs but I am not Jealous of TAMRA BARNEY. I have not come close to having Tamra Barney's life and I wouldn't want it. I know Tamra Barney finds THIS HARD TO BELIEVE but some of us that do not like her have good lives. We might not have the fame Tamra desires but we have many of the other things she seems to think are important. Overall, my point, I am happy with my life. I am not 'lashing out' (her fans would say) at Tamra Barney because I am miserable.
So what is my problem? I can't stand HORRIBLE parenting! It drives me insane. As a former teacher I have seen many things. When parents make mistakes because they are TRYING to be the best parents, well,that is understandable. When parents screw up because it is all about them, it is unforgivable!
Tamra Barney makes all her decisions based on TAMRA BARNEY! IT IS ALL ABOUT TAMRA!!! In addition, I can't stand when people won't admit to mistakes. What is it with the new thing of saying, "I have no regrets" I do! Don't you? I am sorry but I think it is bullshit to say you have no regrets. We learn from our REGRETS those are our mistakes!! It is okay to say we SCREWED UP!
Tamra was out to prove this season that she found a hot young guy.
Tamra Barney doing the 'Tub scene' was horrible. She did the scene to get even with Simon. All her kissing and smooching with Eddie was a dig at Simon. I mean dancing at the dinner was gross they were liplocked and then smooching with Eddie at the picnic table with their friend, GET A ROOM AND NO CAMERAS PLEASE!! Tamra did not think of her children. ANY OF HER CHILDREN. Tamra Barney has Ryan. Did she really think her 20 something son wanted his mother making out all season on the show? For one moment let us not focus on the young ones. Ryan might not watch the show but what about his friends? A GOOD AND LOVING mother would not embarrass her child in that manner. Like it or not, Tamra is not an actress and can't say, "It is part of the job and my children understand it is acting" No, this is a reality show and Tamra aired an intimate scene with her new boyfriend for everyone to see. The tub scene was border line soft porn!
Now, Tamra claims her young children are 'court ordered' to NOT WATCH BRAVO. Who the hell is she kidding? Herself? C'mon, we know kids! All kids! Eventually those kids will see the show!! Tamra sucks as a parent. For example, Tamra's oldest, of the younger ones, is old enough to go over to a friends home and she could easily see it. But, honestly, it isn't about them seeing it. What about their friends watching the show (sad to say many young kids watch inappropriate shows, I know 10 year olds that watch Jersey Shore) and their friends parents are definitely watching it. Wouldn't you watch a mother in your child's class or a mother in your neighborhood? Tamra Barney knows the people in their lives are WATCHING THE SHOW!!
I am sorry but in life, once you CHOOSE TO BECOME A PARENT you need to think about your children and how your decisions will affect their lives. You can say people have NO RIGHT to judge BUT PEOPLE do and to recklessly make life more difficult for your children,well, to me makes you SUCK as a parent. In addition, at some point her children will be old enough to see the tub scene, let alone all the other inappropriate scenes!
I did find it funny that Vicki Gunvalson defended the scene to no end. Vicki called it a beautiful scene and it showed love between two people. Do you guys think Vicki would be happy if Brianna or even Michael did the same scene? I get that Vicki was defending her friend but I don't believe for a second that Vicki thinks it was an appropriate scene. Oh, and let us step it up! Do you think Vicki would be happy if Brianna and/or Michael did the scene and they had children, and those children were capable of seeing the show AND their friends could see the show? C'mon, you know Vicki would have a shit fit!
Okay, let us say that Tamra Barney got caught up in the moment and made one bad parenting decision with the tub scene. I could live with that too but TAMRA didn't. Sure, the liplocking and dance/get a room dance, we could live with but Tamra went onto bigger and better mistakes! The entire season Tamra sucked as a parent. Tamra Barney did nothing but BASH Simon. I think divorce is tough. I am sure Simon is not perfect BUT if Tamra feels that Simon is abusive then why didn't she go after him,legally? In addition, is she not worried that if Simon has anger management problems that he should not have the children? I felt that Tamra Barney was vindictive about her ex-husband 'to be' and Simon had no recourse or way to present his side. No one knows for sure if he was abusive or not BUT Tamra is not pursuing him legally and bashing him on air is BAD mothering in my eyes. Once again, Tamra's children will see these shows some day. She can't stop them from viewing them forever! Worse, Tamra forgot she can't stop other people's kids from seeing it and now TAMRA has called her children's father an abuser. A GOOD MOTHER would not have CHOSEN to embarrass her children in this manner. A GOOD MOTHER would have put the kids FIRST!!!
By they way, if we could see and feel Tamra's hatred towards Simon you know her children can feel it. Tamra Barney is not TRYING to make the divorce easy for her kids. She is the typical TRASHY MOM. ALL ABOUT TAMRA.
What I find funny is how women have defended Tamra and yet I have sneaking feeling if the tables were turned there would be no defending a man. For example SPAIN! Tamra took off to SPAIN for TEN DAYS with her NEW LOVER and did not tell the FATHER of her children. OUT OF SPITE!!! THAT IS BAD PARENTING. Who plays games when it comes to their children? Trashy moms!! People tweeted and wrote on her FaceBook page that Tamra was right. She had no obligation to tell Simon anything. "Women, remember that when your EX-HUSBAND 'TO BE' takes off with his little hottie and you can't get a hold of him to help with your child." I love how women defend a woman being irresponsible but when the man does it, "he is a deadbeat dad" or he "sucks as a father" or he just "wants to 'get it' with his young hottie" but when a woman does the same action the tweets say, "Go Tamra you needed the trip!" "You Deserve this trip and screw Simon" and "Oh, you and Eddie are so in Love and you deserve it."
DOUBLE STANDARD!!!
Once you are parent your KIDS COME FIRST! and when you are divorcing you don't screw around with parenting. Tamra was leaving the country, Simon was the only parent in the country and he needed to KNOW for emergency purposes, at least. Tamra should always put her children's needs first! She can claim she had sitters but the FATHER should have known the mother was out of the country for 10 days! PERIOD!!!
Tamra has tried to make herself look better by tweeting and posting all her 'outings' with her children. I have no doubt she takes them to the zoo and puts them to bed but that is not ALL we do as parents. Parenting is about making good decisions in our lives. Our decisions affect our children's lives too!
Tamra Barney has made a conscious decision to go on National Television and prove her new found freedom. Making out with her new boytoy. Doing body shots in Mexico and bashing the father of her children are all her decision. In my eyes this is bad mothering. What is funny women would be all over a man doing this to his ex-wife 'to be'! In the end, I have no respect for bad mothering. I have no respect for BAD PARENTING!!
In addition, I do not feel sorry for Tamra being bashed in blogs and the press. It baffles me how Tamra Barney thinks she has a case for pity. Tamra gets into everyone's business. Tamra went after Gretchen Rossi with a vengeance. Yes, it would not be nice if Gretchen was screwing around on Jeff while he was dying but they were not married and it was not Tamra's business and TAMRA talked all about it in the press so Jeanna has every right to blab now! What is goose for the gander!!
If Tamra thinks it is okay to talk then others will do the same. Now, Tamra is on a mission to bring Slade down? Why? Why does Tamra get into other people's business. Calling Slade's ex-wife was bullshit and honestly I trust Slade's ex-wife about as much as I trust Tamra. What mother does that on National Television? If her child is so sick focus on that, not bashing your ex-husband with Tamra on National Television. I don't trust ex-spouses with an axe to grind. Once again, do I think SLADE is perfect? NO! BUT, TAMRA doesn't know the situation. 
It is funny how Tamra doesn't like Jeanna talking about her and Simon and Tamra claims Jeanna Doesn't know and then Tamra TURNS AROUND and does the same DAMN thing with Slade and Gretchen. Divorce and child support are messy AND typically ex-spouses never see eye to eye on the situation. Even with the most amicable divorces you hear bitching, that is why they divorced, they couldn't live with each other!
Last but not least, Vicki and Tamra! Oh, boy!!
Last year Vicki convinced Tamra to leave her husband and this year Tamra convinced Vicki. Vicki saw Tamra with a young hottie. YEP!! Having a lot of fun and sex. Vicki isn't even divorced and she is already screwing around. I think Vicki has BEEN screwing around for a while, now she can do it openly.
I hope these two women have realized that the show has afforded them with men and they need to enjoy the sex while they can because it won't last. Trashy girls lose their appeal after a while! Love and Lust are not the same.
Once again, Tamra Barney cannot handle any criticism and she claims it is all jealousy. I am happily married. I am blessed with good kids! Not a perfect life but things are good! I am not jealous of Tamra Barney's life. I wish for her children's sake Tamra would learn to take some constructive criticism and put her kids first. Tamra will regret this past season some day. She won't admit it. Wait a minute, she does suck as a parent so maybe she won't regret it. See, Good parents do have regrets, we have moments that we sit down and wish we did things differently. That is how we make the next day better for our child!
In the end, I can't stand Tamra Barney. I think she is TRASHY and worse,she is a very bad mother. Not all people should have children. Unfortunately in my years of teaching I came across too many Tamra's!
Lucy
